Nta rugo rwubakwa nk’urundi. ibyo abakora brider shower bagomba kumenya

Nta rugo rwubakwa nk’urundi. ibyo abakora brider shower bagomba kumenya

Ibyo abakora bridal shower bagomba kumenya, bigendanye n’ihame ry’uko nta rugo rwubakwa nk’urundi, birimo ibintu byinshi bijyanye n’umuco, imyumvire, n’imiterere y’ingo zitandukanye.

Inama n’impano bigomba gushingira ku buzima bw’umugeni n’umuryango we, aho akomoka, uburyo abayeho, ndetse n’ibyo we ubwe yifuza.

Ntibikwiye gutanga inama cyangwa kumwemeza ibintu kuko byakorewe abandi, ngo bigomba gukorwa no ku rugo rwe.

Kwubaha umuco n’imyemerere y’umuryango

Hari ingo zikomeye ku mihango runaka, izindi zoroheje; izindi zikurikiza imihango y’idini runaka, izindi ntizikurikize. Ibyo byose bigomba kubahirizwa, kuko guhatira umuntu kwinjira mu migenzo itamubereye bishobora gutera amakimbirane.

Kwirinda kumva ko urugo runini cyangwa urugo rufite ibintu byinshi arirwo rugo rwiza kurusha izindi

Hari abashaka kubaka ubukungu buhambaye, abandi bakubaka umunezero n’amahoro; buri rugo rufite intego zarwo. Nta mpamvu yo gucira urubanza cyangwa gushyira igitutu ku mugeni ngo yigereranye n’abandi.

Gutegura ibirimo ubumuntu n’ubushuti, si uguhindura ibirori nk’amasiganwa

Bridal shower igamije kumwifuriza urugendo rwiza mu rugo rwe no kumusengera/ kumutera intege. Ni ahantu ho guha umugeni imbaraga, kumwumva, no kumwibutsa ko afite inshuti n’umuryango umushyigikiye.

Kwitondera amagambo atuma umugeni ahangayika

Amagambo nk’ayo kumubwira ngo “urugo rukomeye ni urwo…” cyangwa “ugomba gukora ibi n’ibi kugira ngo urangize nka…” bishobora kumutera ubwoba cyangwa kumushyira mu marushanwa atari ay’ingenzi. Ahubwo, gutanga inkunga y’imitima myiza, ubumenyi bwubaka, n’ubugiraneza.

Kwibuka ko gusezerana ari intangiriro, atari iherezo

Brid(al) shower ni intangiriro y’urugendo, bityo gukomeza kumushyigikira no nyuma y’ibirori ni ingenzi. Buri rugo rugira ibigeragezo n’ibyiza byarwo; kumufasha mu nzira y’ubuzima biruta kumuha impano zihenze gusa.

Nk’uko nta rugo rwubakwa nk’urundi, tuzi neza ko nta mugore umeze nk’undi, nta mugabo umeze nk’undi, bityo nta gishushanyo kimwe cy’urugo gisanzwe gihari. Wowe n’uwo mugomba kubana muzahimba icyanyu.

Abashakanye baba bakwiye kuba bafite ibyo biyandikiye bo ubwabo nk’umurongo ngenderwaho w’urugo rwabo

Umurongo ngenderwaho w’urugo” (family mission statement), ufasha abashakanye cyane, kuko:

Utanga icyerekezo; iyo mwanditse ibintu mwemeranyijeho nk’abashakanye, biba nk’ikarita y’urugendo, ikibutsa impamvu mwashakanye n’ibyo mugamije.

Ubafasha gufata ibyemezo; muri buri kibazo, muragaruka kuri uwo murongo mukibaza: “Iki gihuza n’indangagaciro zacu?”

Urinda ko mwibagirwa ishingiro ry’urugo; mu bihe byiza n’ibikomeye, amagambo mwiyandikiye abibutsa intego yanyu.

Ugaragaza umwihariko wanyu; nk’uko nta rugo rwubakwa nk’urundi, umurongo ngenderwaho uba ari uwanyu, udasa n’uw’undi muryango.

Urugero rw’ukuntu byakorwa:

Indangagaciro: Urukundo, ukwizerana, kubabarirana, ubufatanye, guha agaciro umuryango, gusenga…

Intego: “Gukomeza kubaka urugo runezeza, rufasha buri wese gukura mu buryo bw’umubiri, ubwenge n’umwuka.”

Amasezerano: “Tuzaganira ku byatubabaje mbere yo kuryama, tuzafata ibyemezo dukomeje kuganira, tuzashyira umuryango wacu imbere y’ibindi byose.”

Iyo mukoze ibi mukabishyira ahagaragara (nko ku mpapuro nziza mu nzu cyangwa mu gitabo cy’urugo), biba nk’isoko y’imbaraga.

Dore urugero rw’umurongo ngenderwaho w’urugo abashakanye bashobora kwiyandikira no gukomeza gukurikiza:

1. Indangagaciro zacu

Urukundo rudashingiye ku nyungu, Ukwizerana no kuvugisha ukuri, Kubabarirana no kureka ibyakababaje, Gufashanya no gufatanya mu bihe byose, Guha agaciro buri wese mu rugo, Gusenga no gushimira Imana buri munsi

2. Intego zacu

Gukomeza kubaka urugo rw’amahoro, urwenya n’ibyishimo, aho buri wese yumva akundwa kandi yubahwa.

Guharanira gukura mu bwenge, mu mibanire no mu by’umwuka, tukarera abana bafite indangagaciro zubaka.

Kubana nk’inshuti magara, dufatanya mu byiza no mu bigoye, ntitugire icyo dutinya guhangana nacyo turi kumwe.

3. Amasezerano yacu

Tuzaganira neza ku byatubabaje mbere yo kuryama, ntituzarara dufitanye inzika.

Tuzafata ibyemezo dukomeje kuganira no gushaka igisubizo twese twishimiye.

Tuzashimira no gushimangira ibyiza buri munsi aho kwibanda gusa ku bibazo.

Tuzashyira urugo rwacu imbere y’ibindi byose, dukomeza guha agaciro umwanya wo kuba turi kumwe.

Tuzibuka ko nta rugo rwubakwa nk’urundi, bityo tuzubaka urwacu mu buryo bwihariye kandi budasa n’ubw’abandi.

Iyo mwanditse nk’ibi, biba byiza mukabishyira ahantu hose mwajya mubibona, cyangwa mukabibika mu gitabo cy’urugo kugira ngo mu bihe bikomeye bibabere urwibutso.

Reka nguhe urutonde rw’ibintu by’ikirazira mu rugo; ari byo biba bikwiriye kwirindwa kugira ngo urugo rugire amahoro, ubuzima buzira amakimbirane, n’icyubahiro:

KIRAZIRA MU RUGO RWACU

– Kumena ibanga rya mugenzi wawe rikomeye rishobora kumwangiza

– Guhisha ibintu bikomeye bijyanye n’amafaranga, umutekano cyangwa ubuzima ni kirazira.

– Kwirengagiza kuganira ku bibazo

– Guhunga ikiganiro cy’ibitagenda neza bikabyara inzika ni kirazira; urugo rukomeye rusasira ku biganiro by’ukuri.

– Gukoresha amagambo asebya cyangwa atesha agaciro

– Gutuka, gusebanya, no guha mugenzi wawe amazina amutesha agaciro mu maso y’abandi ni kirazira.

–  Kubeshyana

– Nta kintu kirusha gusenya icyizere nk’ikinyoma; ni kirazira mu rugo rukomeye.

–  Kugereranya mugenzi wawe n’abandi

– Kuvuga ngo “uri nk’uriya” mu buryo bumusuzugura bikomeretsa umutima kandi bikamuca intege.

–  Gukoresha imbaraga z’amaboko cyangwa ihohoterwa iryo ari ryo ryose

– Ni kirazira ndetse n’amategeko aragihana; umutekano w’umubiri ni ishingiro ry’urukundo.

–  Kwirengagiza inshingano zo mu rugo

– Kurunda inshingano ku muntu umwe no kutitabira gufasha ni kirazira.

–  Kubuza mugenzi wawe ubwisanzure bwo kubona inshuti cyangwa umuryango we

– Kurinda urugo ntibivuze gukumira umuntu guhura n’abe cyangwa inshuti ze.

–  Gukoresha nabi amafaranga y’urugo

– Kubura ku mugaragaro gahunda y’uko umutungo ukoreshwa bikavamo ibibazo bikomeye.

–  Kwirengagiza gusengerana cyangwa gushyigikirana mu buryo bw’umwuka

– Ku rugo rufite umuco wo gusenga, kubyirengagiza bishobora gutuma rucika intege.

Mu rugo ntituzemera:

Ikinyoma; Twese tuzavugisha ukuri, kabone n’iyo byaba bigoye.

Gutukana cyangwa gusebanya; Amagambo yacu azubaka, ntazasenya.

Kugereranya no gucisha bugufi mugenzi wawe; Uwo dufatanya kubaka tuzamwubaha, ntitumuneke.

Ihohoterwa iryo ari ryo ryose; amaboko yacu ni ayo gukomeza, si ayo gukomeretsa.

Kurundira inshingano ku muntu umwe; Turafatanya mu byacu byose, mu byiza no mu bigoye.

Gukoresha umutungo nabi; amafaranga yacu tuyakoresha mu nyungu z’urugo, si ku nyungu z’umwe gusa.

Guhunga ibibazo; tuzicara tuganire ku bidutera impungenge, ntidutume inzika ibamo.

Kubuza ubwisanzure bwo kubona inshuti n’umuryango; umuryango mugari ni isoko y’urukundo.

Kwirengagiza kwifurizanya ibyiza; tuzishimira intambwe za mugenzi wacu nk’izacu.

Kwirengagiza ubumwe mu mwuka; gusenga, gushimira, no gushishikariza ibyiza bizahora mu rugo rwacu.

Isezerano:

Tuzaharanira ko amagambo yacu, ibikorwa byacu n’ibyiyumvo byacu byose bizaba isoko y’amahoro, urukundo n’icyizere. Nta rugo rwubakwa nk’urundi; tuzubaka urwacu mu buryo bwacu bwihariye.

Kugisha inama hiryano hino si ngombwa

Rimwe na rimwe bishobora no gusenya aho kubaka.

Mu rugo, ibi bigira impamvu zikomeye:

Uru rugo ni urwa babiri, si urwa rubanda

– Ibibazo byanyu bibiri nibyo bigomba kubanza gukemurwa hagati yanyu, atari mu magambo y’abantu bose.

Inama nyinshi zivanze zisiga umwijima

– Iyo buri wese agutanzeho igitekerezo giturutse mu buzima bwe, bishobora kugucanga cyangwa kwangiza icyemezo cyanyu.

Benshi batagira ishusho nyayo y’urugendo rwanyu

– Umuntu utabaye mu buzima bwanyu bw’imbere ntabwo ashobora gusobanukirwa imizi y’ikibazo kimwe n’uko mwe mwakibona.

Guhisha ibanga ry’urugo ni ukuryubaka

– Gusangiza amakuru y’imbere mu rugo abantu bose bituma bigera aho bidakwiriye, bigatuma icyezere rigabanuka.

Kugisha inama aho bikenewe gusa

– Ni byiza kugisha inama ku bintu by’umwihariko bikomeye (nk’ihungabana, indwara, imitungo ikomeye), kandi nabyo bikavugwa ku bantu mwizera, bafite ubunararibonye bwo kubifasha.

1. Ibibazo tugomba kwicara tukaganira twenyine:

Amakosa mato yo mu buzima bwa buri munsi (nko kutitaba telefoni, kurambirana ku kazi, gucikanwa n’amasaha yo gutaha),

Uburyo bwo gucunga imirimo yo mu rugo no gusaranganya inshingano,

Amakimbirane yoroheje ajyanye n’imyumvire cyangwa uburyo bwo gukora ibintu,

Ibitekerezo byerekeye gahunda y’urugo (aho tuzajya, ibyo tuzakora mu minsi iri imbere),

Ibanga ry’urukundo, ibintu byacu byihariye bitagenewe abanda.

2. Ibibazo tugomba kugisha inama:

Ibibazo bikomeye ku mutungo cyangwa ku masezerano y’amategeko (nko kugura/gutanga umutungo, imanza, amadeni manini), ibibazo bikomeye ku buzima cyangwa ubuzima bwo mu mutwe (nko guhangana n’indwara ikomeye, ihungabana rikomeye), ihohoterwa cyangwa ibibazo biganisha ku mutekano w’umwe mu bashakanye, gusabwa ubujyanama mu by’ihinduka rinini ry’ubuzima (nko kwimuka mu kindi gihugu, gushinga cyangwa gufunga ubucuruzi bunini), ibibazo by’uburere bw’abana bikomeye bikenera ubunararibonye bwihariye (nk’ibibazo by’imyitwarire, ubumuga, cyangwa uburwayi)

Amategeko yacu yo kugisha inama:

Tuzabanza kuganira hagati yacu mbere yo gusohora ikibazo hanze.

Tuzahitamo umuntu umwe cyangwa babiri gusa bo kwizerwa, dufite icyizere cy’ubunyangamugayo n’ubuhanga bwabo.

Ntituzigera dusangiza ibintu by’urugo ku mbuga nkoranyambaga cyangwa mu ruhame.

Inama izajya ifatwa nk’igikoresho cyo kudufasha, si nk’itegeko tugomba gukurikiza nta kubitekerezaho.

Urugo rwubakwa n’isengesho ndetse n’ibanga

Ibyo ni nk’amabuye abiri y’ishingiro atuma ruguma ku murongo:

Isengesho

Ni isoko y’imbaraga n’amahoro, rikabumbatira ubumwe no kurinda urugo mu bihe bikomeye.

Abashakanye basengera hamwe bakarushaho guhuza umutima, kwibukiranya intego, no gusaba imbaraga zo kwihanganirana.

Isengesho rituma n’igihe habaye amakimbirane, habaho guca bugufi no gushaka uburyo bwo gusana aho gusenya.

Ibanga

Ibanga ni urukuta ruringaniza amagambo atuma urugo rutinjirwamo n’abatagenewe kumenya ibiri imbere.

Guhisha ibanga si uguhisha ikibi, ahubwo ni ukugira icyubahiro ku byo abashakanye basangiye, bigatuma icyizere kiramba.

Abashakanye bamenya ko hari ibyo bavugana ari bo bonyine, bitagenewe abavandimwe, inshuti, cyangwa rubanda.

Wamenya gute uwo wakwita umwizerwa kubijyanye n’urugo rwawe?

Umuntu ufite ubunyangamugayo ahora avuga ukuri, kandi akubaha amagambo asanzwe afitanye nawe. Ntashaka inyungu ze ku giciro cy’urugo rwawe. Aba afite ubushobozi bwo kubaha ibanga. Ntazagushyira mu bibazo, ntasohore amakuru y’urugo rwawe ku bandi cyangwa ku mbuga nkoranyambaga. Azubahiriza ibanga ryanyu, akumva ko ari ishingiro ry’icyizere. Ni inshuti cyangwa umuryango ufite amateka meza.

Ni byiza kwishingikiriza ku bantu umaze igihe kinini ubazi neza, wizeye imico yabo n’uburyo bitwara. Abo bantu bakunze kuba abafite umutima mwiza, badakunda kwivanga mu bintu batabyemerewe. Bafite kandi ubushobozi bwo gutanga inama zidahubutse. Umuntu mwiza ni utagukubita agatoki, ahubwo akakuganiriza mu bwitonzi, akumva ibitekerezo byawe mbere yo gutanga inama. Ntiyakubwira uko wabyitwaramo, ahubwo agufasha gufata ibyemezo bifite ishingiro.

Ubumenyi n’ubunararibonye

Ni byiza kugisha inama abantu bafite ubunararibonye mu bijyanye n’imibanire y’abashakanye, nko ku basaza, abajyanama b’umuryango, abapadiri, abapasiteri cyangwa abavugabutumwa bizewe.

Ntugomba kugisha inama abantu benshi cyane. Hitamo umwe cyangwa babiri gusa uzi ko bazubahiriza ibyo ubasaba. Ibi bituma amagambo adakwirakwira kandi bigafasha kurinda ibanga.

Mu by’ukuri, kumenya umwizerwa bisaba igihe, gukurikirana uko yitwara no kumva umutima wawe. Niba ufite icyizere kandi wumva utaruhijwe no kuganira nawe ku bintu by’urugo, icyo ni ikimenyetso cyiza.

Ese umuntu wifata nabi mu rugo rwe wamugira umwizerwa?

Oya, umuntu wifata nabi mu rugo rwe ntabwo akwiriye kwitwa umwizerwa mu bijyanye n’urugo rwawe.

Dore impamvu nyamukuru:

Ukwizerwa bisaba kubaha no kwita ku muryango we. Iyo umuntu yifata nabi mu rugo rwe, akenshi biba bishatse kuvuga ko atita ku mibereho y’abavandimwe be, atagira umutima wo kubaka no kubungabunga ubumwe. Kwizerwa bisaba gukomera ku mahame y’ubunyangamugayo. Umuntu wifata nabi ashobora kuba atubahiriza ibyo yemeye imbere y’umuryango we, bityo bikagora kumwizera mu bindi. Kwizerwa ni ukwizerwa kandi mu bikorwa, si amagambo gusa. Iyo umuntu yitwara nabi mu rugo rwe, ibyo bishobora kugaragaza ko atazitwararika ibanga ry’abandi cyangwa atazagira ishyaka ryo gufasha mu gukemura ibibazo by’urugo.

Ariko hari ibintu byo kwitondera:

Hari igihe umuntu wifata nabi ahinduka, agakosora imyitwarire ye, akaba yatera intambwe nziza yo kwizerwa. Kwizera bisaba kugendana n’imyitwarire myiza ihamye.

Kwizera umuntu ku bijyanye n’urugo ni ugusanga afite imyitwarire, indangagaciro n’ubushake bwo kubaka no kubungabunga umuryango, kandi ibyo bigaragazwa cyane mu buryo yitwara mu rugo rwe no mu mibanire ye n’abandi.

Ese umuntu usebanya yaba umwizerwa?

Oya, umuntu usebanya ntabwo akwiriye kwitwa umwizerwa mu bijyanye n’urugo cyangwa imibanire yegereye umutima wawe.

Impamvu ni izi zikurikira:

Gusebanya bisenya icyizere, iyo umuntu asebanya, aba asakaza amakuru atari yo cyangwa asubiza ibintu mu buryo butari bwo bigamije gusenya isura y’abandi. Ibi bigabanya icyizere cy’uko ayo makuru cyangwa inama ahawe ari ukuri kandi afite intego nziza.

Gusebanya bishobora guteza amakimbirane

Iyo umuntu atabashije kubaha ibanga, atuma amakimbirane y’urugo cyangwa y’umuryango akwirakwira, bigatuma habaho kutizerana no gutandukana. Kwizerwa bisaba kubaha abandi no kubaha ibanga. Umwizerwa ni umuntu ushobora kugufasha, akakumvira, kandi akabika ibanga ryawe mu mutima. Umusebanyi ntago aba yujuje ubu busabe kuko ahora asakaza ibitekerezo bibi cyangwa amakuru atagomba gusangirwa.

Mu mibanire y’urugo, ni byiza kuganira ku ngaruka zo gusebanya, ugashishikariza kubaka icyizere, kubahana no kubaha ibanga.

Ese umuntu udashobora gucunga ururimi rwe yaba umwizerwa?

Oya, umuntu udashobora gucunga ururimi rwe akenshi ntaba umwizerwa mu buryo bwuzuye mu rugo cyangwa mu mibanire yegereye umutima wawe.

Dore impamvu:

Ururimi ni igikoresho gikomeye mu kubaka cyangwa gusenya. Amagambo umuntu avuga ashobora gushimangira urukundo, icyizere, no kubaka umubano cyangwa se agashora umwuka mubi, agatera ibibazo. Iyo umuntu adafite ubushobozi bwo kugenzura amagambo ye, ashobora gutukana, gusebya, cyangwa kuvuga ibimutera kutizerwa.

Gucunga ururimi ni ikimenyetso cy’ubushishozi no kubaha. Iyo umuntu abasha gutuza no gutekereza mbere yo kuvuga, agaragaza ko yubaha mugenzi we n’urugo rwabo. Ntaba ari umuntu wizewe mu gihe atabasha kwitwara neza mu magambo ye. Kudacunga ururimi bishobora gutuma habaho amakimbirane akomeye. Amagambo y’agashinyaguro ashobora gusenya icyizere, bigateza ubushyamirane budakenewe mu rugo.

Ariko kandi, n’ubwo umuntu atari mwiza buri gihe mu rurimi, ashobora kwiga kwiyobora no kugenzura amagambo ye. Kwizerana no gufungura ibiganiro bifasha cyane mu guhindura iyi myitwarire.